To me it sounds like you have some maturing to do. We were planning a future together , things were going perfectly till she went out of town with work. Women who often visit this site message me asking something like, My ex boyfriend doesnt seem to be affected at all by the breakup. Your ex will think about you more because youll become mysterious and make your ex wonder what youre doing and how youre coping with the breakup. Things changed when she came back, she wasnt the same person I knew. Thats good because you dont want her to think she can walk in and out any time she wants to. Im just wondering whether I should give up and never contact him again. So I dont think it was really necessary to contact me. However, I still did not feel confident as a woman, I did not feel that we were planning the future together. It would be healthy if your ex could forget about you for a while though. Keeping you, and their feelings, at a distance serves them. I started no contact actually immediately, but she initiated contact 4 times over the break up period, and I always replied shortly, because it was about money or some other things, but she never stated she missed me or something like that. How do I tell him all this for a second chance? She is the one with the emotional detachment issuenot you. This is SOOOO wrong on so many different levels. I mean, yeah, I do love her. I never said the same doesnt apply to your ex. Believe me when I say it takes a man who is incredibly stubborn to not contact you during a 30 day NC period. Remember, your main goal here is to get your ex back and in order to do that communication is key. Endlessly It could be that he feels annoyed by your chains of endless status update everyday. Do let me know if you disagree. But what do you think is going on in his mind during this period of no contact? After four years of still broken relationship, we decided to move in together. What we are going to be getting into now is the actual ignoring part. That is exactly why you need to unfriend your ex on all social media platforms. I was randomly blocked after 3 months of NC.. Or would some variation help? I believe this is why he has not texted? more than anything for you to contact him. Then you are going to be extremely disappointed and depressed if stuff like this doesnt happen at all. You start off with really high hopes that throughout this process he will end up contacting you. Why? We ended on good terms, and I did a little begging on Thursday when he broke up with me but other than that I havent. Dont even try to deny it because deep down you know its true. It just so happens that the time I did look at her profile she was online and I remember I blew her phone up angry that she was ignoring me. Also, I have the option to move out of state for a new job.should I take that, or continue to be in the same city, despite her not knowing where I am etc. Are you afraid your ex will forget about you during no contact? That's why he's putting emphasis on texting. Its up to your ex to decide what to do with shortcomings and relationship problems. (And I hadn't even made any move online to suggest how I felt or that anything had changed in my life.) And if you want to confide in us instead, do that by signing up for breakup coaching with us. Get your stuff together. Unfortunately, most women dont realize that fact. We were trying for a baby and had been together years. While it is entirely possible that those three outcomes can occur it is also possible that all three may not occur. Breaking up is hard on both parties. Or should I try to reconnect and sort things out with her.. That would be impossible as they had a close connection with their ex and created a lot of memories. Do that by asking your ex why he or she reached out and responding appropriately. It will make you take my words for granted and keeps your ex-obsession alive for longer. He talked about maybe how things annoyed him that he hasnt spoke of but wouldnt tell me what they were. It is very difficulty to remain friends with your ex especially soon after the breakup. So my boyfriend and I broke up a little bit less than a week ago on Thursday, and I havent texted or talked to him since Friday, implementing the no contact rule. Assuming that your guy has followed the progression I outlined above and is holding resentment towards you for the breakup that occurred you can probably expect the following things to be going on in his mind: You can always expect a little bit of stubbornness to be involved when it comes to someone using silence as revenge. Seriously, when you sit back at the end of the day having completed a no contact rule what is it that you are aiming to have accomplished? Your ex is happy with the way things are, so he or she simply doesn't need to contact you and discuss unimportant things. During this conversation, he did not mention a meeting or anything like that. Andtry to avoid women like this in future. Such people probably dont remember that one person they hooked up with once. I read this article so i immediately follow the NC rule. He left. Don't get comfortable and slide back into old habits. When your ex texts during no contact, you aren't aware of what their intention might be. I told her again Id support her and wait until she was ready Ill always be here for her and I like her for who she is with and without problems it didnt matter to me because I like her. 6. We had few texts in the first two week, then 10 days ago I went silent. So, we have a guy who hasnt contacted you at all during your 30 day no contact period. because it's not the full 30 or 60 days yet, you're unsure of her feelings for you, you don't want to come across as desperate). What we are going to be talking about in this article is going to be a little involved and will require a bit of foundation on your part (i.e. Be flawlessly polite and kind with all contact, but NEVER beg for your ex back. These things are completely out of your control. She messaged me that week in the evenings, I never started the conversation once I thought leave her to give her space but when she messaged Id reply. Your ex wont forget about you if you go no contact. This article is amazingread it every day as long as it takes for you to stop enabling her. The greater the love the greater the loss. Once you've gotten your ex to refriend you, go ahead and ask her to meet up with you. While I am certainly annoyed to get responses like that I do have to take some of the responsibility. He wants to know if you miss him, too. Sometimes it really pays to be the first one making the move on your ex because not only can you control things a little bit better it is always kind of nice when a guy feels wanted. The first thing I do is answer my coaching clients (since its common for them to have a lot of questions.) She stopped for a while and started to gave time for me. In other words, if the dumpee is out of the dumpers sight, why wouldnt the dumpee also be out of the dumpers mind? This guide is going to be looking at that situation specifically and breaking it down from your side and your ex boyfriends side. The worse life treats your ex, the more likely it is that your ex will remember you, ponder about you, contact you, and reconcile (or try to reconcile) with you. Firstly, the no contact rule is only step one in the process. Thats because youll rationally discern that your ex wasnt a bad person and that you wouldnt mind getting back with your ex. He called after a week that he wants to talk about his feelings and wants to focus on starting a family. Everyone has the right to leave a relationship. She is going on a lot of trips, skiing every weekend, out with friends, and spending a lot of money on Distracting herself with everything she can possibly do. Hi Mr J My Husband Still Works With The Woman He Had An Affair With, posting depressing things online and feeling sorry for yourself. Thanks. Give full vent to your feelings in the comments section below the post. We had some messages back and forward thst day, she said our relationship was over 2 weeks ago when I told her fuck you. Do you remember what I said at the beginning of this section? I am happy to advise on either path that you choose, but you need to think if this is a person who is worth your time and effort. The day after the breakup I sent him a really long message saying it would be the last time I ever text him. hello. Be the one to end the conversation. To you, its all or nothing, as there is no middle option. As no contact begins, the chances are that your ex is feeling quite upset. Love your honesty, made me really think about my actions and his. 2. This is me taking responsibility for not explaining the no contact rule as thoroughly as I should have. They may not like dumpees and have much respect for them, but they don't just forget they dated them. Sometimes they focus on themselves and others and see no reason to go back to their ex. What should I do? Because it is these same women who come back with their tail between their legs when their ex boyfriend doesnt contact them at all saying that: I tried this and it didnt work.. What do I do now??????. In all, there are 3 legitimate reasons that come to mind. I say things i dont mean, i curse a lot and has been paranoid. People typically talk about defriending as a way to express their hurt . I did not wanted really get committed too soon in a relationship and would have preferred to take my time too. Here's the upside to her unfriending you. These two reasons are the only perpetrators and the main reasons why you as a dumpee may think that blocking your ex to get him back is a good idea. What is in your control, however, are the mistakes you make after the breakup. Be mindful of your response to their text. My case is i met a guy and we were in ldr for 1 and half year..and during that time he cheat on me multiple timeshe lied about his name age etche older than me.he is like in 40sIm in my early 20she didnt tell me i found it by myself and i forgave him for all thatand still loved him like beforebut our relationship was still going no where due to he being not available and always busy later found he was flirting other girls and we broke uphe said he loved me but at 1 point i was too much.Im naggingannoyingclingy person.after this break up i was with someone else like rebound but after he contact me 3 days after break up i went back to him but he stayed same we broke up and then 1 week later he came again but we fought and 1 hour later he come said he have a new girl and he is currently with her now.he and me dont talk.and he looks happy with her.was it my fault our relationship didnt work? In other words, in that massive guide I actually recommend that you are the first one to make contact with your ex after the no contact period. I would suggest that you spend some time working on yourself, spend time with your friends and family especially when he does get back. You need to be aware of that so you dont let your ex lead you on and discard you when youve served your purpose. So you and him still share the same circles of mutual friends and acquaintances. At first, I supported her on this but it gave a toll on her health. For example, if you go into the no contact rule dead set on believing that your ex is going to blow up your phone with messages like: (This text example was taken from an excerpt of one of my booksThe Texting Bible.). Well, like I explained above. It wants what it wants and eventually it wore my pride down and a few days later I sent that message. If you think that no contact is guaranteed to: Then I have some really bad news for you. If anything, they are going to use you to get over you, and then discard you when they meet someone else. Its been a week, probably not long enough. So whether I tell you that your ex will forget about you or remember you forever, bear in mind that my words wont change the outcome. Once youve recovered to the point where you stop obsessing about your ex uncontrollably, youll see that the breakup happened for a reason (stupid cliche, I know) and that youre much happier now that your ex is out of your life. If your ex chose to do so, let her. You get to control when the conversation is started and assuming you play your cards right when it will end. 3. We both have been in rough relationships and on top I lost my daughter more than 2 years ago. 5. The ultimate purpose of the no contact rule. If you really think she is posting how happy she is to simply make you jealousthen youre letting her manipulate you. Its me, im bitches. Learn how your comment data is processed. That battle between the pride and the heart is what your ex could be going through if he is experiencing what we are talking about here. youll need to understand the process we teach) so if you dont have that foundation I highly recommend you check out my best selling program to get it. Mistake #1) Telling your ex you're going to go "No Contact". He broke up 3 weeks ago. And if he doesnt feel it, then maybe he just doesnt love me like he would love another woman. I have blocked and removed her family & friends from all my social media, but I still have a few friends who show me her things about her over posting just how fun she is having. I got a positive reply saying hes really missed talking over the last few days and would really like to talk soon. It is OK for me as I need time to trust again and want to know him better before embarking in a new relationship. He doesnt speak until today. In the beginning he was periodically call me and text me very little now that Im at this point he has been calling me every day as often as multiple times a day. Weve already mentioned that a narcissistic personality disorder, a lot of dating partners, and a short-term relationship could make your ex forget about you. He needs to see that you mean what you say and are willing to move on from him as you are allowing this pattern to continue means that you will never progress in your relationship or life. Strategies to overcome a narcissistic co-parent include . If he's tired of being with you, then doing no contact is your way of respecting his decision. Heck, most people make relationship decisions based on their emotions. She even said she was sorry. Thus, when a breakup occurs a lot of us dont like talking about it. My bf and I were together over 6 years. This is especially true when it comes to men who are extremely stubborn. 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